August 7, 2012

Love Dare Part 1: Dare 1 to Dare 5

This is an excerpt (or the whole post, actually) written by a friend and a great warrior of Christ. I love how she keeps encouraging people to build a better relationship and put God in the centre of everything. This blog post, specially, is really amazing in the way it points out great resources with clear description of each dare. And of course, the beautiful pictures to accompany us along the way.

Don’t you just love it? God’s fighters are everywhere in the world, regardless of our profession, age, gender, racial background, academic and social status. We Christians are everywhere! So let me share this joy with you who keep wondering why God (slash Jesus) is so real for Christians.. That’s because He saves, and He heals relationships. He sips through every broken heart and cure it. That's our famous Mr J! ;)

There are 40 dares in total, one dare each day. I’ll make it 5 dares in each post in both Indonesian and English (practicing translating skill). You can see the Indonesian post here :)

Soooo, do you dare to do these dares? I dare you!

By Leticia S - Faith, Hope, and Love

"The Love Dare is a book in Fireproof movie which consists of 40 things you should do to your spouse in 40 days in order to make a healthier marriage. It is written by Alex and Stephen Kendrick who are pastors at Sherwood Baptist Church, Albany. It has been a life-transforming book and a wake up call for all of us that great marriage does not just happen by itself. It takes a hard work, determination, commitment, and unconditional love as its fuel.

Sadly, marriage nowadays have been attacked so bad by the lack of kindness, respect, compliments and other good things. Our hobbies, busyness, jobs, or children may have take over the priority in our lives. Moreover, spouse may has turned to become enemy or strangers. But it does not need to stop there. We can make all of these things change. But there are sacrifices needs to be made which is our ego most importantly.

To do all of these dares, we need a great supplier of Love, which is only God Himself. Reconciliation with God is the key to reconciliation with your spouse. Because it takes God to make us able to love our spouse over and over again although he or she keeps rejecting us. Exactly, it takes God which is reflected in Jesus Chist. There is no fixed formula to fix a broken marriage. But one thing is sure is that unconditional love never fails. It may take a long time to tear down the walls between hurting spouses but if we do not give up and with God, we cannot fail. Trust that with all of your heart. Walking with God is the best medicine compare to any marriage seminars or counseling.

I truly hope to see marriages being healed and built upon the strongest foundation ever, Jesus Christ. God be with you as always :) "

Day 1 - Love is Patient
Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. -Ephesians 4:2 [NIV]

Today’s Dare - The first part of this dare is fairly simple. Although love is communicated in a number of ways, our words often reflect the condition of our heart. For the next day, resolve to demonstrate patience and to say nothing negative to your spouse at all. If the temptation arises, choose not to say anything. It is better to hold your tongue than to say something you will regret.

Day 2 - Love is Kind
Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you. -Ephesians 4:32 [NIV]

Today’s Dare - In addition to saying nothing to your spouse again today, do at least one unexpected gesture as an act of kindness.

Day 3 - Love is not Selfish
Be devoted to one another in brotherly love; give preference to one another in honor –Romans 12:10

Today’s Dare - Whatever you put your time, energy, and money into will become more important to you. It’s hard to care for something you are not investing in. Along with restraining from negative comments, buy your spouse something that says, “I was thinking of you today.”

Day 4 - Love is Thoughtful
How precious also are Your thoughts to me ... How vast is the sum of them! If I sould count them, they would outnumber the sand. -Psalm 139:17-18

Today’s Dare - Contact your spouse sometime during the business of the day. Have no agenda other than asking how he or she is doing and if there is anything you could do for them.

Day 5 - Love is not Rude
He who blesses his friend with a loud voice early in the morning, it will be reckoned a curse to him – Proverbs 27:14

Today’s Dare - Ask your spouse to tell you three things that cause him or her to be uncomfortable or irritated with you. You must do so without attacking them or justifying your behavior. This is from their perspective only.


Well that? Hopefully not. Finish the challenge!

Courtesy of Faith, Hope, and Love, Jose Villa
Images from various sources