July 7, 2012

Just Love!

Very thankful for His goodness.. and very scared of falling out of Christianity faith. The world is diluting the boundaries of right or wrong and it's kind of scary.

Today, someone told me that it's not in our position to judge people. She reminded me that it's not within our right to say what's right or what's wrong for other people. I’ve been pondering about this issue for a while and I think God will also say that it’s true.

Jesus never came to the world to condemn people anyway. He came to love.. and to show mercy, and forgiveness, and acceptance. He didn't came to let people know how sinful they are, or make people feel even worse than how they already feel.

Jesus came to love - that's all. He came to give Himself up to the world and sacrificially serve the church.

I know, in reality, it's really hard to accept people with values that are clearly different from us. For example, I sincerely think that homosexuality is wrong. I don’t care about genetics hereditary peer pressure parental rejection etc. Whatever the reason is, it’s wrong. Why? Because the bible says so. I know that many people will be appalled to hear Bible as the excuse, but what can I do? My faith is in Jesus and the Bible.

I cannot lie to myself, saying that homosexuality is okay and thus denying my own faith. Just like the homosexuals cannot lie to themselves and say that their sexual orientation follow the majority. How to settle this difference then?

Okay, it’s just one example of argument that I recently had with a dear friend. But this isn’t about homosexuality ok. I just want to make people aware of how beautiful life is when we embrace differences instead of waging war over the incompatibilities. Why not try being at peace with each other instead of arguing over every little thing?

Matthew 7:1-3
Don't pick on people, jump on their failures, criticize their faults— unless, of course, you want the same treatment. That critical spirit has a way of boomeranging. It's easy to see a smudge on your neighbor's face and be oblivious to the ugly sneer on your own. Do you have the nerve to say, 'Let me wash your face for you,' when your own face is distorted by contempt?..

Over the years, I realize that people who are the most confident of themselves are actually the humblest among all. When they’re faced with differences, they don’t fight against it. They have strong principles of their own that cannot be changed by mere persuasions from other people. And thus, they also realize that they cannot persuade others to change just because they want people to change.

So they try to understand the person’s view from another angle (which can be totally different from their own angle) and acknowledge the differences. These people don’t have an argumentative nature because they know that their talks cannot change people’s mindset. They don’t get angry because people disagree with their opinion. They respect and value other people’s way of thinking and sincerely embrace it.

Differences are unavoidable. I think it’s good to realize that we’re never in the place to judge people and say what they’re doing is right or wrong, specially when it hurts people unnecessarily. God is the only judge. Not us humans. And it’s good to realize that Jesus rebukes in a gentle manner. So I think the best rule is: If we cannot be gentle, don’t rebuke. We can never change people anyway. Only God can.

2 Timothy 2:24-26
The Lord’s bond-servant must not be quarrelsome, but be kind to all, able to teach, patient when wronged, with gentleness correcting those who are in opposition, if perhaps God may grant them repentance leading to the knowledge of the truth, and they may come to their senses and escape from the snare of the devil, having been held captive by him to do his will.

If you find yourself hard to accept differences and respect people when they’re going against your opinions, practice this simple step: Just love. It will spare your heart from painful arguments and save your time from pointless squabbles. Makes your life much easier.

1 Corinthians 13:4-8
Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails.

If people sneer on your defeated attitude, be happy! You’ve done a great job growing up and be a bit more mature than yesterday! Keep up the awesome patience, humility, gentleness, big-heart attitude and the loving heart!

Just love! J

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