April 13, 2012

Annihilate Temper!

Proverbs 15:18
A hot-tempered man stirs up dissension, but a patient man calms a quarrel.

How many times have we muttered unnecessary words when we're angry? When the tension is high and we are wronged, it's very easy to be distracted and be cross. Communication will be hugely impaired and a loving heart will quickly switch into a battle mode. This is war, we tell ourselves.

Everyone does it so that's the norm. That's the way of the world. But we Christians who have been saved by God's amazing grace should act differently. How can we handle conflicts in a Godly way?

James 1:19-20
My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, for man's anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires.

According to the bible, we have to note these 3 key rules. They are accompanied with some verses to support how important it is to follow these directions.

Quick to listen

Proverbs 1:5
Let the wise listen and add to their learning, and let the discerning get guidance

Proverbs 10:8
The wise in heart accept commands, but a chattering fool comes to ruin.

Proverbs 19:20
Listen to advice and accept instruction, and in the end you will be wise.

Proverbs 18:13,15
He who answers before listening—that is his folly and his shame. The heart of the discerning acquires knowledge; the ears of the wise seek it out.

Romans 14:19
Let us therefore make every effort to do what leads to peace and to mutual edification.

Slow to speak

Proverbs 15:1-2
A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. The tongue of the wise adorns knowledge, but the mouth of the fool gushes folly.

Proverbs 15:14
The discerning heart seeks knowledge, but the mouth of a fool feeds on folly.

Proverbs 16:23
A wise man’s heart guides his mouth, and his lips promote instruction.

Proverbs 18:2
A fool finds no pleasure in understanding but delights in airing his own opinions.

James 1:26
Those who consider themselves religious and yet do not keep a tight rein on their tongues deceive themselves, and their religion is worthless.

Matthew 12:36-37
But I tell you that everyone will have to give account on the day of judgment for every empty word they have spoken. For by your words you will be acquitted, and by your words you will be condemned.”

Proverbs 10:19
When words are many, sin is not absent, but he who holds his tongue is wise.

Ephesians 4:29
Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.

Slow to become angry 

Proverbs 14:29
Whoever is patient has great understanding, but one who is quick-tempered displays folly.

Proverbs 29:22
An angry man stirs up dissension, and a hot-tempered one commits many sins.

Proverbs 17:27
A man of knowledge uses words with restraint, and a man of understanding is even-tempered.

Ecclesiastes 7:9
Do not be quickly provoked in your spirit, for anger resides in the lap of fools.

Proverbs 29:11
A fool gives full vent to his anger, but a wise man keeps himself under control.

Proverbs 19:11
A man’s wisdom gives him patience; it is to his glory to overlook an offense.

1 Corinthians 13:5
Love is not rude, it is not self-seeking; it is not easily angered; it keeps no record of wrongs.

That's all about it. Simple and easy. True to Jesus principles, be proactive and reach out to empathize with people first. Listen to their reasons, recognize their needs, and be aware of their emotions. Keep reminding ourselves to be quick on trying to understand people, and slow on letting our opinions out. I believe there's no conflict that can't be solved with the above 3 principles.

Even if you are angry, remember, be loving still. Familiarize yourself with a Godly anger that hates wickedness, but with a compassionate heart that seeks to understand others first.

Ephesians 4:26-27
“In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold.

1 Peter 3:8-9
Finally, all of you, live in harmony with one another; be sympathetic, love as brothers, be compassionate and humble. Do not repay evil with evil or insult with insult, but with blessing, because to this you were called so that you may inherit a blessing.

Colossians 3:12-13
Since God chose you to be the holy people he loves, you must clothe yourselves with tenderhearted mercy, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience. Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others.

Have patience and keep your thoughts level-headed. Wrap tightly around your heart all those mercy, kindness, etc and never leave them lying flat doing nothing at home! God's mercy is like a flood that has washed away all our sins. Extend that mercy to people who wronged us and be at peace!

Philippians 1:27
Whatever happens, conduct yourselves in a manner worthy of the gospel of Christ.

Listen first, be understood later. 

God bless your heart :)

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